What does it mean to be part of the “family of man?”
We all have heard this statement and we shake our heads in agreement. What does this really mean?
When we look at family and how that definition has changed it would stand to reason that the family of man has changed also.
Our beginnings as a people were based on community and “tribal effort” for the good of the whole. For not only survival but also to ensure the continuation of knowledge and tradition. Elders met to solve problems, to create, to bring the family to a place of prosperity and safety. Of course prosperity was food, water and shelter but being provided for was a “family” matter.
We knew that we were from the same source and that the earth and all of it’s inhabitants were to be honored. We blessed the food that we ate. We blessed the animals who gave their life for us. We blessed the moon, stars, sun and rain.
You may have heard the expression “it takes a tribe to raise a child”, but lets look at that if another way. There was a knowing that we each had to care for one another. That each one of us has different gifts and knowledge to bring to a child. It was so much greater than even that. It was a caring for one another without judgement or boundaries. It was a knowing that didn’t need to be taught, it was the natural and only way to be. The broken ones did not fit if they did not hold the good of all above their own needs. A child learned to trust many and learned so much more by the experience. There was a strong sense of belonging, loyality, and birth and death were seen both as gifts rather than as something to fear or as a disease.
Then our “family” began to change as we broke into smaller groups. Still family had strong ties to one another. Grand parents often lived in the same house. Mothers and their mothers shared the responsibilities of raising the children, cooking the meals, playing music, singing songs, telling stories to ensure that traditions would endure. It wasn’t uncommon for sisters and brothers to build side by side or live in the same community. Prosperity began to take on a different meaning. Obtaining wealth and “things ‘ became as important as food and shelter. Families now identified themselves by affluence and status.
We have seen a dramatic change in the structure of family of recent years. Fragmented, spread all over the world in seeking more opportunity and more prosperity. Family was no longer as tight a structure as it was. The emergence of day care to care for our children in the absence of tribe, the absence of grand parents. Technology has replaced story telling and song in much of our communities and traditions have fallen away in many families.
So it seems I have painted a bleek picture of the family of man! But does it have to be? Can we grow in technology and still keep a sense of tribe? Can we bridge the gap in a different way? I believe that we can and there are communities of people who are doing it.
Isn’t that beginning right now all around us. Awakening groups of people who are looking to the universe for answers. People who are like us gathering in the community of mankind. We look to reconnect with each other and with all living things. We want to honor our earth and planet. We have begun to know that prosperity is good but without connection to each other it can leave us isolated and alienated. We can many things and still feel alone. We have begun to know that reconnecting to source can fill our hearts. Early man could be alone on a hunt or gathering and still remember being part of all things. The stars, moon, sun and rain were friends.
When we were away we met people from all over the country and Canada. People with different life styles, beliefs, traditions. I began to appreciate the differences that I saw and as I did they became more and more”one family of mankind”. Seeing the light in them, the dreams that they shared and how coming together with one common denominator connected us. How much people want to be part of the whole. This is why there are so many churches. Not just because of religious beliefs, but the need to part of a family. Many churches provide community in functions as well as child care. People join organizations to find that family, political groups etc. Sometimes it can separate us more if we take to believing that our way is the only way. So we need to be mindful and respect the differences keeping a spiritual eye on the sameness.
Can we grow as a people without growing apart? I think we can if we bring love, compassion and spirit into our lives. When we can look at one another in wonder curiosty and respect. (The island of Belize story .)
What can you do to embrace the family of man? What predjudices do you need to let go of in order to grow in love. Can you look for the beauty of our differences?
Can you see the wonder of all things with peace in your hearts? Can you grow in the prosperity of creating family in every stranger?

